This is where it all comes to a head. All the advice you've been given and the path you've chosen for trying to save your marriage. Taking personal responsibility and detachment. This is the test for you. At this moment you know what is going on. You know what your W has chosen to do. You know the risks that her choices pose to you and your family.
Detach from the idea that you can control her choices.
Empower yourself to make choices that protect you and your family.
Let go of your anger towards your W - it does absolutely nothing to change the situation except that you are wasting energy you could be using to protect and better yourself and your family.
You know enough to make your own choices - stop watching your W and start acting.
You came here to save your marriage. The principles that would help you do this are the same ones that will aide you in dealing with this situation responsibly, whether it ultimately closes the door on your marriage or not. Act using your wisdom, knowledge and compassionate heart as your guide - not vindictively or passively.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
