Your advice is wise, as is Raindeer's. It's always easy to say the words, yet harder to act them out. That'll be some good self development for me - acting them out.
JamesJohn, moderator, from the Newcomers board gave some wise advice for when we are not feeling loving toward our S. It sounds awkward and even impossible sometimes, however, if we try to do something loving for our S, it often helps to get the loving feelings going again (on our part at least). I tried this yesterday and it worked. Yesterday, prior to doing this, I found myself looking at my H, feeling contempt for him and not liking what I saw - this was as a result of knowing how he felt about the OW.
I must remember the OW is not important and the more I bring her up the more I remind him of her - he may not have even been thinking about her. Contrary to that statement, he admits that he was thinking about her for a while prior to coming back home - which means that he could have been thinking about her whilst he has been with me. Ouch.
Dienne - Focusing on the precious things - the rest doesn't matter.
