Mike, I think you are on the money saying that she is embarrassed with her actions because they do not match the person that she wants to be. She choose adultery not I. She choose not to tell me how wounded she was and how unfullfilled she was in in our M. I did not choose to run from our M problems she has. I will never say that this D is mutual. Nor will I go around smearing my W. But when people ask about it now and since we are at this stage I have the right to say that she has filed for D. It is the truth. Because she is the mother of my kids I will not give all the details of what all has taken place, but I will be honest in answering questions.
Another good friend of mine contacted me last night and heard what all is going on for the first time. He is a cop in the area that the OM lives. Everybody that has known us is in shock, including my friend, when they hear that we are on the road to D.
I have been and will continue to do whatever I can to stop this D and reconcile but without my W making some sort of commitment I do not see how this will happen. Maybe next Monday is her way of making a commitment maybe it is not, we will see.
Tonight is softball for me. My W is planning on bringing the girls out to the game and then letting the girls spend the night at my parents. I may get served tomorrow since she will have plenty of time without our kids to go get the papers from her L. If so I am prepared. I am going to tell her that I want her to be happy and if this is going to make her happy then I will not stop it. I will give my L these papers and you will get my counter shortly. I might even tell her that I am opening up my own checking account so that our assets start to get divided.
