Wow Sol, you sure seem to know alot about what your W is thinking and why she is doing what she's doing! I don't even know that much about what I am doing and thinking. STOP yourself! You have no idea, you are just putting everything through your own emotional screens and making it what suits your worldview. Right or wrong, don't do it. Just do what you have to do and stop interpreting her every word and action. If she sh!ts on you it shows she doesn't love you, if she's nice she's just using you...this is your personal view right now, let it go. Deal with what is! If she says "goodbye have a nice day" say "you too" and leave, don't just walk out fuming which is what you did. Start taking control again, you just endlessly resort to anger and then point to how tough you have it when anyone challenges that. C'mon, is going dark a solution or another angry attack on W (who yes deserves every friggin bit of it, but, is it going to be helpful?) STOP JUST FEELING AND THINK, DAMN IT!