Ok, well i just got the response from my lawyer about moving to a rental:
"I would continue to advise you not to move out of the house. I have real concerns that if you move out the equally shared parenting arrangement will not easily materialize based on your wifes lawyer's likely advice to your wife. It may well appear like the "boilerplate" situation to the court; i.e., that you work/your wife is an at home mother and in the home with the children, and that the court might not give you the desired equally shared time. If your wife moves out and, as you state, starts this fantasy life, she is the one who is going to look less stable and the shared parenting will more easily fall into place."
This is driving me crazy. My wife won't move out - because her lawyer is telling her not to. And now I can't move out. I feel like maybe i should just sign off on the money for her new fantasy house and let her go. I guess we're stuck living together - I should take this as a positive as a lot of DBers would probably envy me. I don't see it as a positive though, the longer we stay in this situation my wife is getting more and more frustrated with me, and i'm building resentment towards her for everything she is doing.
