Earlier, my W said that she is stubborn. I view this as a nugget to understanding her more. She is not going to try working on our marriage UNTIL she is ready. For her to say that she is stubborn, it may be that her family members have tried to ask her to reconsider her decision and she doesn't have any substance to justify her reasoning. This may be by she wants me to be brief with her. For someone to looking out the window and see me being brief, it would appear like I don't care. Like I am 'abandoning' W and D3 as she keeps saying. I don't call her family. I do say hello when I see them. I am just speculating, what do you think. Just trying to be rational.
One more thing....
My W and I spoke briefly about the comments that D3 makes about wanting us together and when they pray at night asking "Jesus to bring my daddy back home". I told my W that this concerns me and that we need to go to counseling to learn how to address this with D3. W said that she talks to her about how mommy and daddy are friends, blah, blah, etc. She is not addressing what D3 is saying. D3 will be 4 in August and she understands what a family is. To me, this has to be stressful for my W because it is like she is trying to tell D3 what she is doing is okay. To me it seems that every time she has the conversation with D3 in the back of her mind she has got to be thinking, 'Am I doing the right thing'? Right now she is worrying only about her feelings and nobody elses. She does appear to be taking a selfish and stubborn stance.
I think the best remedy will be to keep being friendly, confident, GAL, and give her space. I think over time she will start to see that I am okay and enjoying life with or without her. She'll start to miss me soon.
