Ok, my Wife left me six weeks ago with the explanation of "I don't love you anymore" I also got the "I love you more like a brother" speach too. Since leaving we have had limited contact, although i will say it has been friendly & no hostility what so ever. The day she left i asked her to consider working out whatever problems we had, of course she said it would not make matters any better as she does not love me like she should, or like i want her to. I asked if she truly ment that, to which she replyed that she did. I told her that i would not stand in her way or try to change her mind on it. I thought that was the best thing to do at that time, i now hope it still is?
At first i had no idea what to do i was a total mess, I suppose everyone is. I immediately began searching the internet for any kind of info, I came across various books & articles that all had the same basic advice...Do not beg or plead with your spouse, be happy & work on yourself etc etc..I have been doing that with good success, i think.
So, up to now i have seen my Wife two times which was when she came here to get clothes etc, which i helped her pack & load the car. We did have an heart to heart talk about how & why we both let our marriage end up the way it has. Basicaly we stopped doing things together, did'nt go out as a couple as often as we used to, she would sit & watch TV, I would be at the PC. The more we did this the more it was normal, neither of us confronted the other about it & so it went on. After our talk she did say how stupid both of us have been in acting the way we have, she gave me a huge hug & left...I think that was the last time i saw her which was 5 1/2 weeks ago.
The other contact we have had since then has been by phone call or text message & that has been to sort out some financial matters, which again has been friendly & with out confrontation.
I do know there is another man involved, I also know that she had only known him a matter of weeks before she left me. My wife went through a career change a few months ago, in that time she met a female friend that she got on with really well with. We began going out with her new friend, her husband & her brother. If you are wondering, the other man is the brother of her new friend. Insidently, this guy lost his wife about a year ago, through death. I got the strong feeling at the time, that the sister ( wifes new freind) was trying hard to find her brother a new women.
Well, my wife began having long talks with her friend weeks prior to leaving me & i am aware that she had indeed confided in her. She is now staying with her friend & her husband. At the moment i believe the involvment with the other man is an emotional affair but i may be wrong & i'm not sure if it makes any difference anyway.
I've tryed to keep this brief as not to bore you all with the same old stroy
Thanks for reading & please feel free to bash me & give your thoughts & advice.
