"If you’re finding yourself unable to detach from all this craziness, take a breather. Get yourself together whatever way you can. Go dark (it can be done while living in the same house). Or move out. Get all your legal ducks in a row. You don’t have to file for separation or divorce if you’re not comfortable doing that right now. And think about the reasons why you are considering it anyway. Is it a scare tactic? Then you might find yourself divorced, even if that wasn’t your intent. Don’t make idle threats that are only being said to manipulate your wife.
It just seems that you are overly concerned with anything and everything your wife is doing and not understanding that you don’t control her. You cannot make her do anything she does not want to do. Start focusing on yourself for awhile.
