Secrets

[Betterman]

Awesome! Truly awesome! Well, I am relentless about reconciliation. I have tried not to be "in her face" about it but have also demanded respect from her and done things which I believe deserve that respect as well.

I also recently became a Freemason, an organization which stresses morals and upright character. I have always wanted to be a member of a fraternity which I could be proud of and that my family could be proud of me for belonging to. She, however believes it to be a "boys-only" club and looks at it as such. She is a feminist in that regard. I don't really care what her attitude it toward it, I love being a Mason and like the benefits which it provides for myself as well as my family.

This attitude is prevalent in pretty much everything. She is jealous of men's status in society and often comments that she wishes she was one so she could get the benefits of that gender. I always respond, "No, you don't want to be a man. It's a tougher role than you think." Translation: You wouldn't be able to handle it.

So I have to be diplomatic as well as tactful in many of my dealings with her. If I try to be too forward or "manly" or is turns her right off and places her on the defensive. This can drive me nuts.

However she is also a good woman, she just needs to realize that she still has a great man in her life, as a matter of fact a much better man than before (thus my handle for these forums). I have attempted to show her this through my attitude and actions, but the battle still goes on.