It'd be easier to say "get rid of him" had I not been in that sitch, but I have been there..without the abuse you've endured--and I was only going to give my H a certain amount of time to come around or I was just going to shut the door on him and go on w/my life and my kids, because I discovered I *could* and *should* be happy without him.
No one says you have to hate him, had I divorce my H I prob would've loved him for a few more yrs, but I would have moved on with my life and mourned my M and just go on.
Tell yourself you can do it, make it a mantra, and it will come true.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
