"...so I'm looking for the guy who is going to be brutally honest about how crazy he is about me pretty much all the time and how crazy he is about my hot *ss on at least a tri-weekly basis..."
Stigmata Replied:
"We ARE still talking about a man here, right?"
Mojo Responded:
Right off the top of my head I can think of at least 3 or 4 guys who do behave this way in their relationships with women that I know, so .....pretty much all I have to do is start acting like those women (which means I have to be much tougher than comes natural to me)."
3 or 4? Hmmm. Yes, I seem to remember once seeing such male or semi-male creature in his adolescent natural habitat. He could be seen in my high school hallways briskly and dutifully shuffling two paces behind the pretty head cheerleader, as she has firmly instructed of him...
Mojo: I've got one of those men and it is GREAT!!
Stigmata:
This brings up a question that has been on my mind with all the continual discussion of Alpha males: Was Reagan an Alpha male? 'cause he was crazy about Nancy and was not shy about letting her know it regularly. He would even sit in the same room with her and write doting letters to her!
Also my Grandfather, Football player (I have a great picture of him in one of the old leather helmets when really TOUGH men played football) and coach and farmer, who was always telling us stories of sneaking out of the house in HS to go fight was also a man who was crazy about his wife and was never shy to let her know in front of anyone who was around. My grandmother told a great story, at Thanksgiving last year, about being stuck on a ladder probably 50+ years ago while a bull sniffed around. She said when Grandfather came to rescue her he said "I guess this bull knows a great piece of azz when he sees one." Probably 5 years ago Grandmother was bending over and Grandfather says out loud "Look at that great Azz." Okay maybe I did not have "normal" grandparents but they loved each other and I loved them!! The two of them were tough people who brought out the best in each other. My grandfather always said that divorce was never an option for them. Murder, maybe but divorce never. It meant to me that emotions might run high but they were committed to each other no matter what.
So in my mind there are plenty of tough guys out there that are not too afraid to admit that they have wonderful wives that they are crazy about. They are confident strong forceful men that feel proud of the most important woman in their life and are not afraid to show it. If you think about it, it makes perfect sense. I think a man, and an alpha male especially, KNOWS he picked the right woman and the best woman and wants everyone else to know it too.
I have always found men that were condescending or disrespectful to their wives to be kind of wimps. I mean sheesh YOU picked her and married her and now you cannot do anything but run her down in front of people?? Sorry but nothing manly about that behavior to me. Of course the reverse is true also. I cannot stand to listen to women pick apart their guys either. I mean you are partners and should be building each other up and not tearing each other down. Yeah okay a few jokes are okay if it is crystal clear that each one is okay with the joke but degrading the other in front of people is just uncomfortable to me.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
