I decided to take the day off. I picked up D3 from my wife’s office. I spoke to her for a minute to get a read on where she is. She said that after I was out of the house for 3 days she made up her mind that she was going to file for a D. She said that she told me that if I don’t come back, she is done. She said she sat in the house and cried for 3 days. She said, “you know that I am stubborn and I made my mind up 3 days after you were gone”. She then said, what did you think I was just going to let you come back into my life after leaving? She said I can’t live my life like that. She said that she noticed a change in my behavior the last few weeks that I was being nice and friendly. She said that I will be friendly and nice and then go back to my hobbies to keep myself happy. She said that she wants our conversations to be brief. She said that she doesn’t want to know what I am thinking of feeling. She said that she loves me as a person, but she doesn’t love me. She said that she does still want to go to the circus July 1st with D3. I suggested that we do other small things like lunch at the office so that the circus is not odd. She said, no. She said that we won’t have to interact much at the circus. I suggested that we attend counseling for the sake of D3. D3 is always asking me to spend the night and talking about us being together all of the time. She said that she talks to D3 and tells her that some times daddies and mommies are just friends and that they don’t live together. I told her that this is not good enough. She has so many questions and is starting to understand the purpose of a family. She may be open for this counseling, she didn’t respond. She said that she has to first make herself happy and then she can work on our ‘friendship’.
I was sitting there thinking how selfish and stubborn of you. What do you think about D3. She is putting her happiness before D3’s. I didn’t say anything. It is like she is trying to justify her actions. She suggested that in August we have two different parties for D3 because this will be too difficult for the families to handle. (Projecting on her part…Sounds like Guilt to me). I thanked her for her time and asked what can I do to help her feel comfortable. She suggested that I be a good father and be brief with her. She said that she is taking D3 to Disneyland this weekend. She asked me a while back and I said that is fine.
