Neglect seems to me to be highly subject to interpretation, especially ex post affaire facto. However you are correct. I cut her off emotionally speaking when she 'chose' to react to attraction without awareness. Some manifestations of emotionally cutting off would be cesation of all pillow talk, any conversations about the future, and brushing off any attempts to communicate about what she 'needed'. :dismissive hand wave:
In some threads, you speak very highly of your ex, and her intelligence. So in the time that you moved your best friend in with you (knowing prior to that what he was like), your ex never indicated to you, verbally or otherwise, that an attraction was or could be growing? And even in possible absence of her recognizing it, you did.... right?
I know, this was all part of the test... and everything is, of course, a choice... but... being a woman, and imagining myself in a position where I was feeling attraction for someone, especially someone who lived with me... and I indicated that to my H (which I'm wondering if she did do that with you), and then, to which, my H then emotionally withdrew from me... I suppose I find that rather perplexing.... and given the same situation, it would probably piss me off/hurt me a great deal.
There are several choices available to a woman in that scenario, far beyond submitting to an attraction. Obviously. And I know you have reviewed in your own mind, where you may have done something different in retrospect.
But to label women, generally, to make bad wives... to me echoes of a bitterness within you that is being missapplied to the general population... especially when you did a great deal on your own to create the situation that exploded in your face.
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Now if she want me to be an animal, I can do that
As a sex game, or as a way of living? And if you are your own man, with his own purpose, why would you ever make such a statement. As you have from your own experience learned, that to BE something for someone else, to put their needs before your own... is not the best recipe for an M.
This is a dodge I see in your regularly. You describe Who You Are, and How You Are, but then you will state... "I am what women want me to be. They don't want the real me."
And to me, I can see how this would create for you, a confusing and less than accurate view of women in general. You manipulate them by being 'what they want you to be,' then get... bored?... dissapointed?... because they, in fact, let themselves be manipulated. Which is the exact scenario you create.
And that is fine... and certainly a GREAT way to keep from exposing yourself to deeper feelings... I just think it is a cop out to blame the woman.
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So does she really hate the pain? or does she love it? Ive always wanted to ask a cat. I also wanted to ask the Tom, how do you remain so indifferant to her pain. He must be one selfish bast@ard. But it seems to work.
If I understand cats correctly, neither the female nor the male realizes they have any other choice in the matter.
