The funny thing is I was a good wife but a terrible wife too. The reason was that I wasn't a happy wife. If I ever do it again I will work harder at being happy than at being good. I don't think it's any different for boys. You just have to be brave enough to ask for what will make you happy. The tricky part is getting that brave. It's very hard to tell on ourselves in that way. For instance, what if I were to say to a date "Thank you for dinner. I had a lot of fun. If you would like to see me again please call or e-mail by Wednesday. I'll be happy to hear from you."? Wouldn't I be kick*ss if I could go around setting boundaries and asking for what would make me happy like that right from square 1? What if I could do the same thing with sex? What if I could do the same thing with a whole freakin' relationship?
Here's my point for you. You could actually just ask some girl to stay inside the fence because it would make you happy if she did (Might take some giant balls though. Pretty scary stuff.) Making you happy would make her happy and contented cows never roam.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
