Those are excellent resources and verses -- THANK YOU!!! I pray that it will get to that (the "what do we each need to do to recover" stage), but in the meantime, the Church's teachings on "what constitutes an 'affair'" will help me as well, especially with my in-laws.
I'm not certain, because there have been SO many lies, but I BELIEVE that my W and OM are somewhere Stage 12-13. However, she has at LEAST clearly THOUGHT about 14, possibly even PLANNED for it, and it may have ONLY been the fact that OM lives at home with his parents that has prevented it so far, who knows.
It really doesn't even matter at this point. For a woman to open her heart anywhere beyond Stage 5 or so, is well into an EA and on its way to a full-blown PA.
And I DO need to be more "thick-skinned," definitely!!!
