I am just trying to take it easy and now my H keeps calling me and asking me how I am doing????????????????
He does'nt need to know about your weakness, but he does need to know about your pain. Even strong people can feel pain.
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He told me to stop thinking about it and everything will be fine,,, to just relax......He is pretending it never happened.
Well he can pretend all he wants, but we both know, it DID happen, those words did come out of his mouth. He wants to pretend it did'nt happen because he is embarrased and disgusted with himself. He just wants to go forward and forget what an ass he was. I think it's good to move forward, but he needs to apologize and make amends first, otherwise he can move forward but you can't. Maybe you could explain that to him when he's sober and calm. Not like a wimp or like a mother though, but more like the strong woman, his lover. Maybe he needs to realize the gift you've given him, what it took for you to bare everything to him. He needs to respect that, not critisize that.
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WHY couldn't he have been rational last nite?
Drunks are not rational. You might want to look into an Alanon 12 step program. I went through it a year or so ago. It's free, just takes one night a week. But oh the information is awesome. Mostly about getting strong, healing, and dealing with and alchoholic.
Hang in there Ali, I'm proud of you.
Love,
COG
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