Hmm, I don't want to be a jerk, but is there an OM?
If not, your W is just really confused and trying to work through things the best she knows how. Do what you said, give her the space, let her know you're there for her, and see what happens. Come join me, it's getting to be quite a group.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...