your husband is not ready for that inward look. Don't expect it yet. This journey has a cycle to it, and the first cycle is a moving away, as in a door swinging outward. They can not start swinging back for a long time. PLease understand you will not have the same experience. Your husband has to make this journey on his time, and his way, and from all indications he is NOT there yet.
I am not sure any of these men can look inside. They have powerful inclinations to resist that look, meshed into manhood issues of control and power. They can not be wrong. So start or continue the pattern. No pressure, no demands just let your lawyer take care of you. Just be serene and kind. At one point my L actually said, on instructions from my client, I am to be nice to you guys. Actions speak louder than words. Remember that!
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
