One comment. There is no place for secrets in a marriage. There is a place for privacy, but most people misunderstand the difference, so I offer my simple example; Privacy is a fart in the bathroom.
I will be glad to discuss at length any of my opinions, but we should do it on your thread.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.