Keep in mind it takes months to get anywhere. Those ILYs and affection can take a long time. I'm very mushy, huggy, kissy and didn't let my husband's holding back bug me. I just overwhelmed him with affection! And it took months for him to return the ILYs. According to books on this the typical healing time for an affair is between one to two years. \:\(

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.