As I've said for a long time, the effort, is the reward. Everyone here should be extrememly proud of their efforts. We all initially come here with the intention and hope of saving our marriages. The reality is, as this process unfolds, we define our character, our integrity and our honor. We realize we are only half of the equation and can't make decisions for anyone else. They are in a process of defining their character, dignity and honor.
As stated many times, the process sucks. It hurts beyond compare on many levels, but it is how we emerge on the other side that is the true blessing, the true reward of our efforts. Does it remove all of the heartache? No, but there is true comfort in knowing we made the effort, we tried, we stood for our moral character and never faltered. Does this make us better than others? No, it makes us more experienced. It is this experience that we share daily to those struggling to get to a place of comfort.
Nicola, this is where you shine. The cycle of highs and lows will continue for some time, but the attitude you possess along with the knowledge you hold while you stood strong, not just for you, but for all things incorporated into a marraige is something to stand tall about. The encouragement and sharing of your experience is appreciated by many, some of whom you will never meet, others you already have. You have touched their lives in a positive and uplifting way.
