Lou What do you do if your spouse says the A is over and it was nothing? You have no proof that it is still going on unless you snoop and he says thats breaking HIS privacy and trust in YOU?
Sorry to hijack your thread choc. I guess I just feel really unsure of whether I'm doing the right thing right now.
I think you're really brave to confront your W and agree with pretty much everything you'e done so far.
Thing is I had made my mind up as you may remember that I was not prepared to live without afection any longer. Now my H has been way more loving overcome his ED problems and I had felt he was reconnecting and happier with our lives.
I was still pretty sure he was still in contact with EA/PA OW because he still never left his mobile around.
Just recently past few weeks he'd changed and really seemed different much more at ease and was leaving the phone on charge.
I hadn't snooped for months and was up early and he'd kept a text from her that reads as follows...
If a msg is sent from a distance u can't feel the wishes u can't see the smile but u can sense the care that comes from the heart. Hope U R feeling better now no more pain tender kisses xxx
this was dated 16th Feb some weeks befor I felt we were connecting more and prior to ML again.
Now I have no fear of ending the marriage if he withdraws affection again but now I really don't know whether I'm kidding myself on here and I KNOW my H will consider ME the one breaking the trust by reading his personal messages. He will come out with it was just a kind message from a friend and a bit flowery not romantic.
Sorry but I am just really upset that he really seemed to have changed and now I just wonder if he's got better at showing me afection because he doesn't want to lose me but keep his romantic love as well. NOP advice helpful
