Oh no, you can still financially support her and pay for expenses, but you will now be fully in charge of your money and she'll have to start keeping a tab of what she needs. Instead of pulling money out of the account whenever she feels like it, she'll need to ask you or get a certain amount each week or once a month (however you set it up). During divorce a spouse should not have full access to the other spouse's account because they can pull money out and hide it. In fact, that's VERY common. And a little here and there adds up.
She'll need to come up with a reasonable budget and then you can give her a check every week, biweekly, or once a month. There shouldn't be anything illegal with you doing this because you are in dissolution and are expected to start separating assets, accounts, etc... All you are doing is starting that separating of funds ASAP (and this protects you! It wouldn't surprise me if she's currently pulling extra money out... EVERYONE in divorce does it. So talk to your lawyer about this immediately and start right away).
With your wife working part-time and making decent money as a nurse, I'm not sure how much she can ask you to cover financially. I know if she wasn't working at all, you would be expeceted to pay for the divorce even if she is the only one who wants it.
One more thing, try to keep the divorce and your feelings for your wife separate. Keep in mind D attorney's will say bad things about the other spouse to make you angry, and keep the divorce going. So when they do say something bad about the other attorney or spouse, keep in mind it's just part of the game. Helps insure they make their money....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
