Husband, Good for you. He's sooooo faraway. You definitely have a HUGE advantage that he lives out of state ..... and man you are doing some GREAT wooing stuff!!! Little gifts around the house. WOW!!!!! That's another heart melter!!!
Do not allow anything to knock you off the feel good wagon. You are being a great dad and a great husband and whatever else happens (because negative bad things ALWAYS happen. That's life!!!), you're just going to relax, look for the humor or silver lining and be thankful for what you do have.
By the way, regarding a second affair... I don't think that's going to happen with your wife. I don't think this was a serial thing (I.e. seeking a realtionship out of depression, unhappiness in the marriage, or to get the affair "high" like someone turning to alcohol). I think she was "broadsided" by an old flame. From what I've read the feelings in an old flame can be extremely strong. There's past chemistry, memories, a previous connection, and it brings one back into the past. I wouldn't be surprised if what drew her to him was not "him," but to a younger version of herself. He would represent that and often women have a hard time with aging. Does that make any sense? _________________ Andy, I'm so sorry to hear about your late night. It's hard when they are in the midst of the affair. I remember when my husband would be hanging out with OW and I knew what was happening and it was such a bummer. Hang in there buddy. Yes, your wife is being selfish right now. Hopefully she can eventually mature and evolve out of that self-centered stage.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
