I'm sure you can look through your files and find loving cards and mementos from years ago that prove she DID love you.
But what she is telling you is, she's had depressive episodes before and is having one now. During those bleak times, it FEELS like she never loved you - because SHE can't feel it right nOW.
Not sure this is always the case and maybe something B4 is dealing with too. I have had to come to grips with the possibility that my W not only has probably never truly, deeply loved me, but as she is now, lacks the capacity to do so.
I honestly cannot look back and not find too many cards or notes. I just spoke to my C about the fact that in 13 years of marriage I have only even gotten one card for our anniversary (10th)and NEVER anything else from her to make that day special. C said "that is so wrong on so many levels". No effort from W to ever make any moment really special. The few cards I have received have been at times like when I was away on a research trip for three weeks. She put a card in my suitcase that she wrote some generic sentiment. Something about missing me and needing me around the house for stuff.
There are indeed people who enter into marriages under false conditions like this although I'm sure they tell themselves something different. I just wonder what's going through their heads as they hear those wedding vows.
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
