OC- I was thinking last night when I couldn't sleep, (bad call to eat mexican and margaritas that late).
When we talked Fri night, we got around to the topic of taking each other for granted. Earlier in our M, I used to do little things for her. Surprising her with a cup of her favorite coffee, meeting her for lunch, little gifts etc. Most recently, before the bomb, I got really bad at calling her during the day, I started staying up late watching TV and not going to bed until after she went to sleep.
I took her for granted, and in her words, made her feel like I didn't care about her. We lost a big part of our connection. This started a good 6 months before the bomb.
So OC, I think you may be on to something. I think I need to treat her special again, because she likes it. I openned the car door for her a few times and she initially acted like I was nuts for doing it, and now she almost expects it when we are out.
I don't know, just a thought. Today she is taking S6 to a festival in town. Originally I was going to go with, but I bailed because some of my work got rained out yesterday. That and I wanted to pull back a bit.
Smiling and waving.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
CW just dropped S6 off. No R talk, but I told her that I meant everything I said Friday.
I gave her a hug and then walked her out as she is borrowing my Suburban to pick her parents and sister up at the airport. We talked for a minute and told her how nice she smelled, as the wind was blowing her cologne towards me. I put my arm on her shoulders and squeezed her as she turned towards the truck. She told me that sometimes it seems that I am forcing myself to hug her. I replied that wasn't true, and I asked her if it bothered her that I hugged her. She said no. We joked around about something else and she left.
I hate her leaving, but I was at least able to hide that fact, outwardly anyway.....
Smiling and waving.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
SD-That is the crazy thing.....I have no idea what is working and what isn't working. One minute she seems to be pursuing me, the next, she is gravitating toward fatboy.
I am vexed.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
That is exactly how i feel right now. I think there are a lot of external influences going on right now, and i'm just not giving it enough time to see the results.
You W says in one breath that she doesn't want to give you false hope by touching you and then, in the next she says that you touching her seems forced. Maybe she doesn't want to get HER OWN hopes up by giving in to the feelings that she actually really likes you to touch her!
SD-That is the crazy thing.....I have no idea what is working and what isn't working. One minute she seems to be pursuing me, the next, she is gravitating toward fatboy.
I am vexed.
MC, if she is starting to pursue, then something is working. Michele talks about this flip-flopping behavior in the section on infidelity (p. 212ish). Seems like it applies exactly to you. Reread it and live it! SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
Last night S6 had baseball. It was a beautiful night for ball. The kids however dont have the attention span always to make 4 innings. By the 4th inning, it is like herding cats.
CW came to the game after work. Just to be a pain and tweek her a little, I noticed that she had a bottle of pop. I asked for a drink because I forgot my water and the field is incredibly dusty.
After the game, she wanted to go for ice cream. We did, and she decided that she was hungry, so she got a taco salad and me and the boys ate IC.
She said goodbye to the boys and when she was walking away from me, I gave her a "come hither" look and motioned for her to come over she did and we had a quick hug. She caught me staring at her as she walked away, and when she asked what I was looking at, I simply replied that she looked nice, rolled up the window and left.
That was my night.......smiling and waving....
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
