Questions for all the "Cheated"

[I_Surrender]

It is unique for all of us, the best thing I did for myself was to forgive myself.
I don't say that in assigning blame to me, but forgiving myself for being unaware, for not knowing what the right thing to do was, for not making the best decisions, for making mistakes and so on...

By doing that I am able to begin to forgive my spouse for what she has done.

Forgiving, does not mean forgetting. It does not mean that it makes it right. It does not even mean that I will accept what has happened. It does not mean that it will stop hurting.

It just means I can try to be less angry. Perhaps it will hurt less, sooner.

Anyway that's where I am, trying to forgive, hoping to hurt less, and hoping to think rationally.

Dwelling on anger restricts me from healing myself, becoming a better person, moving forward in life.