Keep your enemies close. At the moment your W is your enemy. What you do in regards to this current sitch could turn even more "pear shaped" than what you are experiencing.
It sounds like she is feeding off you in regards to her craziness. Like WorkHard said in his post, you must detach emotionally from what she is doing (I know, easier said than done). Try to stay under her radar if you can and take care of yourself. Man, you sound soooo exhausted, I really do feel for you.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
