Less is More

[Holly06]

Good Morning!
I got out my tattered copy of Peter O'Connor's Men at Midlife Crisis book, and with my glimps into TJ 's soul yesterday I have an idea where he might be in the tunnel.
He is moving. He is moving.
He is exactly where he is suppose to be.
One thing that became appearant to me that they are always rethinking their choices, and at one time or another consider changing their mind.
He let me see that yesterday.

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But he is a man, and a man makes decisions and goes in that direction. He has decided to get the settlement issue taken care of. The we will see.
OK.

I am not afraid. I will be fine. God will has great things in store for me.
After everything is done, everyone wants to leave a legacy behind them on this earth.
To some of us is is healthy functioning children, left as adults.
To some of us it is a plaque of appriciation left in a conspicuous place of importance to us. Volunteering, business, serving on a board or whatever.
To some of us it is being needed by others, and supporting their outside goals.

I find mine is children, and touching their lives.
TJ finds his in the business world, and supporting a company that "wins" and all the employees that depend on that job.

In some form, it is appriciation. You alone define the value of appriciation.

I am newly hopeful.

So here is my new plan.

I will answer my phone when TJ calls. No more games. I will be here and no pressure, no demands. Just listen. I did a very good job at that yesterday. I did not argue with him, even though I did not agree with everything I said.
This is a big thing for me.

I am on trial now. I will be true to myself, and be a kind and gentle person. I will recognize that my life's journey is in God's hands, but my life belongs to me.


O'Connor is big on the psychic world. He compares our reluctance to acknowledge the phychic part or ourselves as the same relucance man had to accepting that the world was round and not flat, as Coupernicus professed.
Well, we all know how that turned out!

We as LBS and as WAS or MLCWAS need to acknowledge that inner world and incorporate, mix in that part of ourselves with the conscious, thinking world. That is one of the tasks these men have to face. It takes looking inward, thinking and a leap of faith to get there.
Powerful and mighty stuff.

They need to trust and have courage.
Trust themselves, and have the courage to do it.

That is what takes so long. They resisit this with all their might, as you might find yourself doing. Do you believe what I have just written?
If not, you will begin to understand how your S is resisiting the work he has to do on himself.

Lots to think about here.