I am so sorry to hear this latest set of updates. You are doing terrific and I echo the advice from BF about FICO score. During my divorce my goals were to come out of it with custody of my children (at least primary physical custody) and an intact FICO score. Well -that is pretty much what I walked away with. Ex-H had already wiped us out financially and as far as posessions - well, I just let them go. If you are able to keep your equilibrium and allow Mrs. Choc to flounder until she get's a hold of herself then maybe it won't come to that.
I am certainly not one to advise you to divorce or absolutely not to do so - that is for you to decide. I am confident that my divorce was the right thing at the time. However, it was painful and difficult and dh had better just shoot me if he wants to be rid of me because "over my dead body" is how I feel about D at this time even though I live daily with the pain of a distant physical relationship. Choc, you are a good man and you deserve a good life. You will do the right thing.
