Sol, if you are going to file then I would suggest you sit down with W and tell her, don't do things behind her back! Tell her what your plans are and what you need to change those plans. Give her time to digest it. Then do it! Don't use filing as a weapon, if you are leaving then do your best to set up the best leaving it can be. Definately, get legal and financial advice so that you know what is what. Remember, you and W will always be parents and that is more important than the pain you feel at any given time. I don't believe you can DB in this sitch, Sol. You can't put away the OM nor your agenda for making change. It may be better to be apart and re-build from there. You must work from a position of strength and you feel too emotionally beat up where you are now. I wish you well in whatever you choose.
