Why do these things happen...for the better I hope

[JR2007]

Those are sweet e-mails. You have a sweet little boy it looks like. Makes me miss my son right now.

789, it seems like we're in this about the same amount of time. We've both had some ups and downs. The key is to not let the downs outweigh the ups! My wife said in our meeting, that if she gives in to me that I win. Well, that's a third true. We all win - she does, my son does, I do. Our family wins. It's not a competition between us and our spouse. We are partners in this learning process, we just need our Ws to see that

It is however a competition between God and Satan. Satan wants your family and my family (and all our families) to disintegrate. The easiest way for that to happen is for us to give up. I have decided there is no place in my heart for the adversary. There is only room for my family and the Spirit of God. That way, I can maintain positive thoughts ("For as a man thinketh, so IS he") and move forward with my life in a positive manner. At some point my W will see that and give us a chance. Same goes for your wife. Stand up, be a man, show her you're confident and capable, and she'll respect that. She'll be attracted to that. She'll want to see more.

Time is on our side, WE have to be patient and not just wait around but live our lifes BETTER than we were before. It's a lot to do. These are huge changes. I dare say your changes are greater than mine in many respects, so you should be proud of what you're accomplishing. your W will be too and she'll want to be with you.

Stay positive man, as Jazz says, keep your chin up!