From my own POV I would send it. I wish with all my heart my H had told me how he felt rather than have an A to replace what he felt I couldn't or wouldn't give him. Boy was he wrong about me.
I don't see how she could ignore this cry from the heart. Her answer may not be what you would like to hear but at least she can't go on with the pretence that everything is okay as it is.
I really wondered if something bad had happened while away. Something she's ashamed of or if she's worried about an std like herpes and thats why no contact below the waist. Don't really know cos my H wouldn't touch me either with the ED problem. Maybe she has the female version of ED.
At least this email is something she can't ignore and you really can't continue for years like choc did. I know he's having all these problems but how is that worse than just living the way you have been for the last year.
I really hope this works out for you and she reads the book and learns how to talk openly to you about why she's become this way.
