Hey All I am going to say about your Cousin is share your feelings and thoughts with her. Tell how you feel and your thoughts on the sitch. She is going to do what she wants to do and you can not stop her. At least you can have a clear mind by speaking the way you feel to her. I really do not think any of us can tell you anything you do not already know. Hell, you have been at this long enough and you continue to amaze a lot of us (especially me) on here with your strength. It is your time to share that strength with your Cousin.
However, a lot of people think because they sign seperation papers that is the same thing as a D. Never truly even understood the seperation Idea. Either you want to be married or you want to be D'ed. Why go through the hassel of paying someone to help you with a seperation when you can act like adults and seperat on your own if that is what you need to do to end up in the place you need to be.
Either way just share your feeling in a way that is not negative. Let her understand the other side of the fence as well as the consequences that could come from her actions in regards to herself and the kids.
Sorry that I am not much of a help on this one sister.
By the way. I can get to my e-mail today...
Later, Ben
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
