Ok people, for once this is not about me and H. I have a situation regarding my cousin who is going thru a separation also. I have told you about them before but let me refresh everyone. They have been apart since October 2006, he moved out. They have 2 boys (8 & 4). Separation papers were signed a week after he left.
He has moved 2 states away for "work" and supposedly has a girlfriend. He claims it is a friendship but it is a girl he dated before they got married 14 years ago. Anyway, she told me last night that she went on a date this past Friday night. It was a real date and not a friendship date. I am having problems with this. I want to support her and believe she needs to do what she feels best but I think this is way too soon. I am wondering if she is just trying to get back at him. She has not told her kids and probably won't cuz the oldest is having a really tough time with all of this.
In my opinion, even though they signed separation papers, they are still married and both seeing other people, they are cheating on each other.
What I don't understand is she has talked about wanting him to come home, doesn't she realize this will just push him further away? I don't know how to respond to her when she talks about it. I told her that I was glad she had a good time but that I could never do it. I have thought about it many times but I know deep down I can't do it. I am married, maybe not happily, but I am still married.
A part of me wants to tell her she is playing with fire and that it will catch up with her. Another part of me is saying stay out of it because it isn't my business.
Hey, the good news is that it has taken my mind off my own problems.
Sorry for ranting here but I just needed to get it off my chest and I knew you all would help me thru this.
On a different note, H was talking to the girls last night about how they better have their rooms clean before we go to the beach. He said when he comes over to stay it better be clean. This shows me that he doesn't mind staying over. He is talking about it anyway.
Well, today the sun is shining and I am going to make sure nothing puts a black cloud over me. I am in a good mood and I am planning on staying that way.
