welcome to my nightmare

[andyv]

Husband,

Also do not look at her phone records, regardless of what you think may be happening.

I was guilty of knowing, and it affected my DBing big time.

I don't care what anyone say's, it is the worst thing you can do, it affects you so much that you cannot hold back.

I reckon if I did not look at her phone bill early on in our sitch, that she may have come back to me. My SIL told me that even three months ago, she was no sure that she wanted to leave.

Now my SIL told me that W is so happy that the Divorce papers are coming through, and that she picked up a Real Estate brochure today for the sale of our house.

I reckon her R with OM may have had something to do with it, but I reckon most of it was me and the phone bill checks (she does not know about the checks, but everytime she lied about where she was I would accuse her of being somewhere else).

They all lie, and sometimes we have to let them so they can get through that tunnel.

I have detached emotionally to my sitch (because it was killing me), and feel better now. I have also accepted the inevitable, which makes things easier.

I mentioned in my own post, that W told me she was on a "High" tonight, before she went to rock climbing (with OM). This was after she was bed ridden and sick all day yesterday.

I just had to run with her feelings and be happy for her. I can't afford to overanylize things anymore.

So please don't ever look at your W's phone records again. You already know she has had/having a R with OM. Thats all you need to know for your peace of mind.