I think that I must have jumped in this forum too soon.
You might be right. I'm sure it was hard not to get excited when you thought things might be moving in the right direction. Sorry your news isn't good. I'm right there with you and I worry that IWMIW isn't far behind.
Originally Posted By: jersting
I need one that has more to do with dealing with divorce instead of piecing.
You can come over to "Divorced But Not Done".
Originally Posted By: jersting
I feel so much heartache that I just want to get over her, but I just can't seem to get her out of my heart even though my mind wants to.
I hear that! I allow myself to feel bad about it, but try to make sure I don't let it get out of hand.
Originally Posted By: jersting
I am pretty sure she is having an affair with someone and I started to dig on that a little and just made me feel worse so now I just let my mind play the scenarios through and it makes me nuts. I thought that maybe if I could get proof that she is with someone else it would help me to get her out of my heart but I don't think that is going to work either.
Well, sadly, it wouldn't be the first time. There's no good answer here. If you don't know, your mind plays out every ugly scenario possible. If you do know (as I do), your mind plays out every ugly scenario you know. There is no good option so do what you have to. However, don't expect knowing to do you any good (it didn't me).
Originally Posted By: jersting
One question I have is this... If God put us together why are we going apart and if God does want us apart why won't he take her out of my heart and make this easier on me?
Hmmmmm. Well, I suppose to begin with, no one really knows if "God put [you] together" or not. It is possible He did, but I think it is just as possible He had little to do with it. However, for the sake of argument, let's say He *did* bring you together. That doesn't make us slaves. Your WAW has free will and can choose to go elsewhere (even if that choice is wrong).
I don't think God ever wants to see the institution (His first established on Earth) of marriage violated. As such, I doubt he "wants [you] apart". However, He does not shield us from the pain and hurt caused by the evil that exists in this world (if He did, we'd never see the results of sin and never see a need to turn from it).
In addition, this is a learning opportunity and, while He didn't cause this, He may be using it to teach you about your relationship with Him. We turn our back on God time and again, but He doesn't put us out of His heart. Instead, He calls us back time and time again saying, "I love you. Forsake your sin and return to Me."
