I am so upset regarding porn.......HELP!

[glamgirl]

JR I like your perspective. I agree porn is a problem, but here's the real problem. I have asked H to please stop viewing porn sights. I think in the past he said ok, but then I find him on them again and again. The last time he said I see nothing wrong with it. Now that's a problem.

In my mind he isn't going to stop. It is one more thing that he will hold against me. He says you are always trying to change me. Make me into somebody I am not. I struggle with do I live with this or do I just give up completely on this shattered marriage anyway?

I agree policing is not the answer, but when you find things out about your spouse and the trust is broken, it's hard not to snoop. The other side is, I have absolutely nothing to hide. You can tape my phone calls, read my e-mails etc, and I would be ok with that. I feel that in relationships we need to be open books to each other. We should have nothing to hide from each other. I am sure H would disagree. We just have different perspectives on life and how we should be to each other.

In many ways I wish I didn't love him and could just walk away free and clear. That would be so much easier than standing for my spouse and waiting for him to want to work on us.