Naked in the Cabbage Patch

[Crazy Eddie]

Hmmm. It's possible that you were being more Alpha than you know or she was desperate so she was looking for any little sign of Alpha and magnifying it through the lens of her desire or maybe you're cute. Most/many women like being "overpowered" but probably not in the same way. I would probably like hair-pulling. I just can't recall anyone ever doing it to me hard enough that it seemed aggressive. I mean I've certainly had my hair held back by men and maybe a bit of guidance was offered but I wouldn't call it "hair-pulling". Also, a guy who liked me in 11th grade used to pull my curling iron sausage curls but that was just flirtatious, not aggressive. I generally like anything that could be described as a throw-down or a pin-down but I don't like being pinned down by the neck. I think this is because it takes me over the line from fight/flight excitement into a sort of "play dead possum" state which is kind of depressive to my drive.

Yeah, I can see where a choice between holding still and having your airway accidentally squeezed further might ruin the mood for you. I think I'd have to give a resounding "hell no" to anyone who asked me to choke her during sex.

With the hair-pull, it was pretty hard. I'm not in a hurry to try it again; it doesn't turn me on that much, and if she's not into it, it's just as well. I do like pushing/tripping/throwing her a bit, onto a soft surface (her feet don't leave the ground until her butt/back hit the soft surface... I'm not that muscular yet), and she really seems to enjoy it as well.

You've never done a Kegel-squeeze during intercourse?

Of course, but I wouldn't call it that in that context. I was wondering if legs-up-on-shoulders-then-crossed might not be good.

It turns out to be very good for all concerned.

Oh yeah, and put me down as a "no" for the rimming.