Ali - He's not going to throw it away over you calling him about that woman calling you. To my mind, you didn't do anything wrong. You didn't even talk to the BF for Pete's sake, just spoke to your H about it.
If he wants to make a big deal about this, it's because he's LOOKING for an excuse, imho. Ignore him, ignore the behavior, go a little bit dark. It is NOT okay for him to react in this way.
