Those are sweet e-mails. You have a sweet little boy it looks like. Makes me miss my son right now.
789, it seems like we're in this about the same amount of time. We've both had some ups and downs. The key is to not let the downs outweigh the ups! My wife said in our meeting, that if she gives in to me that I win. Well, that's a third true. We all win - she does, my son does, I do. Our family wins. It's not a competition between us and our spouse. We are partners in this learning process, we just need our Ws to see that
It is however a competition between God and Satan. Satan wants your family and my family (and all our families) to disintegrate. The easiest way for that to happen is for us to give up. I have decided there is no place in my heart for the adversary. There is only room for my family and the Spirit of God. That way, I can maintain positive thoughts ("For as a man thinketh, so IS he") and move forward with my life in a positive manner. At some point my W will see that and give us a chance. Same goes for your wife. Stand up, be a man, show her you're confident and capable, and she'll respect that. She'll be attracted to that. She'll want to see more.
Time is on our side, WE have to be patient and not just wait around but live our lifes BETTER than we were before. It's a lot to do. These are huge changes. I dare say your changes are greater than mine in many respects, so you should be proud of what you're accomplishing. your W will be too and she'll want to be with you.
Stay positive man, as Jazz says, keep your chin up!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I will try to stay positive, but for right now I need to take about 20 steps back and look deep into myself. I feel I am in a fast tailspin with all this going on around here. Hoping we don't have a T-storm today with my luck and all.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Hey, I'd still trade you places. How does that make you feel?
I'd give anything to be able to see my wife and talk to her.
Your W has given you some nice little signs, go with that and be patient and hopeful that things will work out.
Why wallow in self-pity? Will that help? No, it'll just make things worse. Remember your goal and do the things that will help you achieve your goal. You'll be alright, it just takes a few days to work through things in these situations. I know how you feel. It'll work out.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
What I said might of came out wrong, I am not giving up on my W or my M. It is everything else that is all getting screwed up. Right now it just seems like everything is snowballing, I want things to stop and calm down.
After I told her to just file for a D to protect her self. I had left and that is when I was posting in here. Well guess what, she called me later for dinner a 3rd nite in a row. We had Chinese food which is one of my favorites. Then I opened my fortune cookie along with everyone else. It was the best one I have ever opened, not that I really believe they are true. Well they all read them but I would not read mine out loud, because I was afraid I would cry. 10 minutes later my W stole it when I was not paying attention and we and sone were the only ones left at the table. She read it, then made a comment that made me want to really start crying with joy.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Well the fortune cookie read, "May your dearest dreams come true"
Well damn, even she knows what is my dearest dream. She actaully looked me in the eye, and for the first time in a long time I think actually talked with some feelings. She said " That is a great one, and I know it will for you" I know that is not changing the world, but if you could see her exppression and the way she said it. Without saying anything about us, I could really feel her thinking, if that makes sense. lol I fell like I am in high school.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
