Naked in the Cabbage Patch

[MJontheMend]

When you specifically mentioned the big toe, I guess you were referring to having it inserted into some orifice on someone's body? Otherwise, I'm not sure what "kinky" things would be done with it that would not involve all toes or the entire foot.

Okay, I thought about it for a minute. I specifically don't like toenails. They gross me out. I don't want them near any of my orifices.

Heels are good for bringing a woman up near eye level with you. When she's laying down, though, they just get in the way.

Unless you like the feel of spikes, I guess.

I've tried hair-pulling. It didn't work well. If there were a soundtrack in the bedroom, the hair-pulling would have been followed by a scratched-record sound. Maybe she doesn't really long to be "overpowered" so much as "lightly but assertively led". She did, after all, find me irresistable at a time when I was about as un-alpha as I could get, so it stands to reason she's not into big power plays.

Hmmm. It's possible that you were being more Alpha than you know or she was desperate so she was looking for any little sign of Alpha and magnifying it through the lens of her desire or maybe you're cute. Most/many women like being "overpowered" but probably not in the same way. I would probably like hair-pulling. I just can't recall anyone ever doing it to me hard enough that it seemed aggressive. I mean I've certainly had my hair held back by men and maybe a bit of guidance was offered but I wouldn't call it "hair-pulling". Also, a guy who liked me in 11th grade used to pull my curling iron sausage curls but that was just flirtatious, not aggressive. I generally like anything that could be described as a throw-down or a pin-down but I don't like being pinned down by the neck. I think this is because it takes me over the line from fight/flight excitement into a sort of "play dead possum" state which is kind of depressive to my drive.

I haven't tried spanking as a reward, and I'm not too sure it'll work. Playfully threatening it as a punishment does seem to work well within the flirtation dance sometimes, though, especially when I call attention to her disappearing protective padding.

I assume you're responding to this comment by BF.

which reminds me, eddie never spankk a woman when she has been a b*. Your just rewarding bad behavior. Spank her when she is good, and I mean really good.

BF is just being silly/cryptic or something. If your W is into spanking the most typical vibe is something like "don't do the thing that I really want you to do but say I don't or else I'll do the thing you act like you don't want but really do" -lol

You can play it blatantly sexual or secretly sexual. If you play it blatantly sexual then whatever you "don't" want her to do would probably be something sexual like "I told you not to touch yourself.". If you play it "secretly" sexual then it's more like role play creating a sexual situation from a non-sexual situation, naughty schoolgirl kind of thing.

Why do some women like this sort of thing? I think because it combines quite a few things that women generally do like; teasing, dominance, role-play, clothed sexual interaction(that might just be me -lol- any fantasy that puts a hard-on near my p*ssy with a layer of clothing in between sends my monkey screaming up the tree ) plus you get the usual pain/pleasure dungeon play type thing with increased blood flow to the erogenous zones.

You just haven't found the right spot with that vibrator. It seems to be a different spot entirely from the one you want to manipulate with fingers.

Vibrators definitely work on me. I just prefer to pedal my own bike (or white water raft)rather than sit on a moped.

You've never done a Kegel-squeeze during intercourse?

Of course, but I wouldn't call it that in that context. I was wondering if legs-up-on-shoulders-then-crossed might not be good.