Sol, she's throwing infidelity at you because she knows it's your sore spot. I agree, she probably has not had the sex partners she's claiming. She's just trying to hurt you in the way she knows will work, that's her anger. Now, you asked me to email you but I have no email address I can use, so I imagine that you want to clarify your sitch. So, if my advice is unhelpful then please feel free to say "put a sock in it, Whatis!" I won't be offended. I just do keep noticing that you put the entire emphasis for change on MC and on your W's actions. DBing is about doing things differently. If something doesn't work, stop doing it and try something else. I certainly don't advocate that you just let her walk all over you BUT being proactive means deciding on an action plan and doing it. Doing makes for feeling hope! If you sit back and allow her to run the show you're beat. I hope I'm making sense and, again, if it's not useful just say "put a sock in it, Whatis!" Take care of yourself Sol. Oh, almost forgot, the "you don't satisfy me in bed" thing, that's just another attack on your masculinity. She knows it hurts so she uses it. Don't believe her, Sol.
