I really would not beat yourself up for what you said to husband, these MLCERS never remember thing for too long anyway. I am sure that you husband both believes and cares, its is just that his guilt and depression do not allow him to communicate with you in a normal manner. Maybe your husband is not responding to make you feel bad which is obviously working, so imo i would just forget about it now and when your husband does contact you don't mention it and act as if.
Take care
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved