Porn is a problem. It dulls the senses to reality. It makes us think our spouse should look like those girls (or guys) and should perform like them too.
We can fool ourselves all we want that it doesn't hurt us, it does. It may not be cheating, we may not have sex less with our spouse, but it dulls us to the beauty of the relationship we have in REAL LIFE with a wonderful person.
It is degrading to men and women. It's a tool of the adversary to destroy families, and it needs to be eradicated from our lives. There is just no question in my mind on this subject.
Should spouses be policing each other's computer usage? I'd say NO, but in these situations where trust is already damaged, it happens. Why we look for more bad things is beyond me, but it's human nature.
If you don't want your spouse using porn, ask them sincerely to stop, with some good reasons. If they know it hurts you, they will stop. Anyway...off my soapbox...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
