Listen to what everyone here is saying UA. I need to aswell.
There is nothing you can do right now to change his mind. Focus on you and your daughter.
I have heard the same things for 18 months now from my H. Until you have D papers in front of you, nothing has changed. He wants a D, let him do the work, let him stress about it.
I KNOW it is really hard. You are strong, you can do this.
Give him time and be patient. We are all here for you.