I think it's easy to call someone's faith into question when you're not there. I know you've been in my shoes, but even still, your sitch is different.
I'm tired of my faith being called into question because I feel like this marriage is over.
WHAT FAITH?
You have stood on nothing you couldn't see or feel.
You know what, you didn't REALLY lose it til your husband packed up his package and quit sleeping with you.
So tell me, UA, what was your faith in all this time?
Yes, we've taken a bit of a negative turn in this thread. Let's just go ahead and stop that right now, hmmm-kay?!?!
Amy made a valid point. And some of us need the 2x4. It doesn't work for others so well, but I don't think it hurts to hear it sometimes.
This is NOT easy. But we can still stay positive. And yes, I've had to work on this A LOT, but I'm getting there. And the positive interactions on this board help a lot. Let's keep that up
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I think it's easy to call someone's faith into question when you're not there. I know you've been in my shoes, but even still, your sitch is different.
I'm tired of my faith being called into question because I feel like this marriage is over.
WHAT FAITH?
You have stood on nothing you couldn't see or feel.
You know what, you didn't REALLY lose it til your husband packed up his package and quit sleeping with you.
So tell me, UA, what was your faith in all this time?
I call BS on that Amy. I HAD faith, I have faith in God, and I've had it up until last week when he said he wants to move forward...
THIS was why I should have stopped posting - call me what you will. I'm detaching from here as well. Really now - I wish you well.
Later.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I wish I could say yes to this question. You sure you're being honest here?
Did you listen to all advice given?
How many people here told you to quit pursuing, to move on, and to make him chase?
Did you give us all the information?
If so, why am I just finding out about this new chick today?
Are you divorced?
No. You're not even legally separated.
Yes I am being honest. I DID stop pursuing him. I did listen. I DID do most things - some backfired, some didn't.
And yes Jazz - if you had followed my sitch from the beginning you WOULD know about her. If you'd LIKE I could link you. Want me to do that for you or would you like to use the search function?
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
The biggest challenge for anyone here in my opinion is to find the balance between not being a doormat and yet dying to self.
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This is where I am at right now Amy. Trying to find a balance between what I should accept and not accept. Where I draw the line between remaining friends and being there for my H, without letting him "walk all over me" and trash my emotions.
I think I am getting closer, but not quite there yet. Time and patience. I also know what you mean by the whole 32 vs 20 months, I have been dealing with this since Dec/05, but it seems like much, much longer.
I think it's easy to call someone's faith into question when you're not there. I know you've been in my shoes, but even still, your sitch is different.
I'm tired of my faith being called into question because I feel like this marriage is over.
WHAT FAITH?
You have stood on nothing you couldn't see or feel.
You know what, you didn't REALLY lose it til your husband packed up his package and quit sleeping with you.
So tell me, UA, what was your faith in all this time?
I call BS on that Amy. I HAD faith, I have faith in God, and I've had it up until last week when he said he wants to move forward...
THIS was why I should have stopped posting - call me what you will. I'm detaching from here as well. Really now - I wish you well.
Later.
Not true UA. You have never gotten back up since he quit staying over.
