Your previous successes have all come from holding his feet to the fire. It was not the optimal solution, just the only one available at the time.
Now someone else, the therapist, seems willing and able to hold his feet to the fire. Let him do that and see how H responds, while you give up that role that you'll need to end up discarding anyway before you can consider your problems solved.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
