NamechangeChick, Hey I need to chime in on this one.......
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he wanted to tell me himself.
Did he actually come out and say that he was dating someone or could it have been that he wanted to explain the sitch between him and whoever so that you did not get the wrong impression.
Do not bite my head of I am just catching up and just want to know.
Mr. CLean.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
I am going to be the bad guy around here again today. I am on the outside looking in and I see many ways for you to move forward and let things be for now. Don't keep feeding him with stuff. You are giving him what he wants. Let it be.
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I did say it wasn't about her, it was about asking our D to lie. I said I know you're done with me, you don't love me or want me - I get that. You've told me time and again. I get that.Don't even mention this to him right now. Of course he is going to say you are right. He doesn't know what he wants so he takes the easy way out.
That's not the issue - you can date whoever you want - you've already said you can.Don't discuss this either.
He said you're right - I don't want you and I can date whoever I want and if I want to date someone, they're going to be around D.This is the anger coming out in him. You backed him up against a wall and he felt threatened so he said what he felt would hurt you. He is going to say whatever will make you mad so it is easier on him. Guilt will kill him so he thinks pushing some of it on you will help him out. Don't let him do this to you.
Ben - he wanted to tell me himself according to him - that she just showed up there. Question though - why would D know that that's the ONLY person she really shouldn't mention?
She freaking tucked my kid into bed, read her bed time stories, piggy backed with her and let her sit on her lap. She's such a f*ing prize.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
seems to have coincided with this twit girl coming back to work with him....
Don't get bent, I'm just trying to piece this together.
Did you throw the same kinds of accusations at him with this chick as you did the MySpace chick?
He admits there was something emotionally there -- for some reason he had a LOT of his focus on her not me and he was trying to figure out why. I don't believe he cheated with her and I didn't accuse HIM of anything this whole time Jazz.
MYspace girl - I said she was out of line and pursuing him - guess what - I was right.
This girl - it was a friendship that developed but IMO was too close.....and he admits something is bugging him even now about it.
This was the "good person" that "he could talk to" when we werent' doing so hot....making me feel like I wasn't a good person and he couldn't talk to me.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
here you go and this is completely different veiw of the story.
You Get Divorced, you Husband moves on with this chick and becomes serious about her. You D stays with her father. Your daughter will continue to get tucked in and play with OW.
Do you see what I am getting at? There is nothing you can do about it. No way you can stop it. No way you can change his mind. You really need to go back to letting go and I MEAN really letting go.
You are a great and strong woman. Do not let anyone ruin your days. Live them for yourself and your D. That is all you might have in the end.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
This woman was a GOOD person way before I cheated -- as a matter of fact, she's a big reason for why I felt like he didn't give a sh*t about me. Go ahead and throw it up to me again though- do you need some salt too?
Ben - I understand someone else would have to tuck her in, etc.
He called back to say he's not doing anything with her, people showed up, etc.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
