Need Veteran Piecer's Advice - desperately!!!

[Heartbroken]

Thanks ROOT,

H is in an apt until end of August - what happens then is a good question. I told him lets try a true separation thru July and then see where we are at. The kids go to my in-laws in CA for three whole weeks in July - so we will have no need for contact other than sharing dog responsibilities.

I am GAL - went out last Friday and have plans this weekend with the girls.

H stated he has two fears 1) He doesn't want to stay in a loveless marriage - afraid he will never be able to love me again. and 2) doesn't want to come back to realize he regrets it 3 or 4 yrs down the road - these are some big what ifs. But isn't life full of what-ifs? We could die tomorrow...we cannot go by whatifs. I fear he will be making the biggest mistake of his life - and he says isn't that his mistake to make? But in his choices the kids and I are hurt too....

Other Dads of friends of my son say they used to envy H and I - we always seemed so connected. I wish they could convince H what he is throwing away...

Oh well - staying in the present momenet - nothing else to do. Cannot change the past and cannot predict the future!